Sex

Porn vs Real Life

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For most individuals, some of their first sexual encounters tend to be the ones they witness in porn. With the internet becoming such a great resource, people of all ages with basic computer knowledge are capable of seeing their deepest desires within a couple clicks away.

But even with porn being a great helper when it comes to learning the basics of sex, as well as exploring yourself a bit more.. there are still some key things left out in porn that might create a grave error in the bedroom.

Charlotte FreeFor starters, there is a common misconception that all girls are hairless. There are a few girls out there who still keep it natural, and it has actually been proven to be healthier NOT to shave your no-no’s. Regardless if the girl shaves her vaginal region or not, sometimes girls may have a bit of 5 o’clock shadow going down south, and even on her legs, by the time you get around to having a bit of fun. This isn’t something to be alarmed by. Most girls you see in magazines with smooth, bronzed legs are so photoshopped that they originally had the same leg prickle going on during the photoshoot!

Another thing if foreplay. A lot of porn displays this as something sensual. But it is more than ok to get a bit aggressive and show your inner animal by ripping the clothes off! Feed into the vibe and add a little clawing down the ladies side if you are going down on her. And if you’re a lady? You can always do the same thing if you are giving a guy head as well or choose another route by massaging his inner thigh.

There are more than a few topics to address when it comes down to actual sexual intercourse. The first of these, I have expressed dozens of times and will continue to reiterate it. Always use a condom, especially when you are having sex with a new partner. It’s just plain and simple. Both babies and STD’s can be a very unwelcoming surprise in anyone’s life. So do the responsible thing. ‘If you can’t pay the vet, don’t get a pet!’

Use A CondomWith great sex, comes great responsibility to keeping your partner safe and happy. This not only means you are responsible to helping them achieve orgasm, but you are also responsible for their health. With the prior idea of using a condom already stated, I want to touch base on sex safety. The vagina can easily become infected with the simplest of things offsetting the PH balance, so it is key never to go from the rear then back around to the front without washing up quickly. The transference of bacterial from the rectal region can easily affect the hygienic quarters of the vaginal region and easily contribute to nasty infections.

In addition to keeping it clean between the sheets, you should also remember that the way you see girls treated in porn isn’t how every girl wants to be treated during sex. Some girls like it slow and sweet, while others may be a bit more of a freak. And there are some who like to go with the flow and change up the tone for every sexual encounter. You should always make it a point to pick up on their body language, and if you hear a moan that may sound like a bit of a pain be sure to ask! Sometimes a girl is too shy to speak up.

The next idea I want to touch base with about sexual intercourse is that.. Well, sex is messy! In porn they make it look very clean because it is visually appetizing, but the reality is that having sex is a great workout. So not only will you both be sweating, but the exchange of bodily fluids during foreplay and sex can make it a bit slippery when wet! Most porn portrays perfectly sculpted models, as if their bodies were cut out of marble, with not a drop of sweat near or around them. But let’s be real. The 5 minute scene that you are watching more than likely took around 10 different takes.. all of which included make up touch ups, and repositions.

Woman Grossed OutSpeaking of messy.. one thing that shouldn’t be messy is the ending! Most guys will not just pull out when they are about to climax and let a load all over your face like they do in porn. I think it’s become quite the trademark to defile women in such a sense with your baby gravy when it comes to adult rated films. But when it comes to having sex or making love, this rarely happens unless the woman asks for it in the heat of the moment. I don’t always enjoy the mess afterwards, but sometimes I am so turned on by what is happening that I scream the most random places for my partner to let go on.

As a female who very much so enjoys anal sex, as well as having written a guide for the ladies.. it is best to keep in mind that not every girl likes it. Some girls just won’t do it at all, while others may need to have a drink or two in order to be comfortable with it. Then there are a few who even reserve anal sex for that special time of the month. Whatever the case may be, you need to remember that it is her body, and ultimately her consent as to whether it happens or not. Furthermore, I would like to remind you all of the importance of being in tune with your partners body language and making sure that she isn’t in pain. Taking part in some foreplay before hand, and using a bit of lube will take care of a lot of that. And remember, you aren’t a porn star, so don’t ram it in like one! Take your time!

Couple Sleeping TogetherAnd speaking of porn stars, not everyone moans like one. Some people enjoy the auditory stimulation of sex with the sounds you make naturally, while others enjoy a little vocal encouragement. Whether you are loud or quiet in the bedroom, there are a few key rules to abide to when getting dirty. One of the biggest things is respecting your partners living environment. If they live with a room mate, you probably don’t want to show off your best porn star imitation moans. Just because you can’t scream, or talk dirty at the top of your lungs doesn’t mean you have to remain silent. Use this to fuel other fun events, like whispering dirty things into each others ears, or even being extra aggressive can be somewhat of a thrill due to the mute restriction. And maybe you, or your partner aren’t into dirty talk? That’s ok too. Sex can be completely enjoyable without forcing something you aren’t in to.

It seems like in a lot of porn, they force the fact that ‘they aren’t allowed to kiss’, as well as that porn is an all work and no play sort of thing. Guys, and Girls.. Let’s be real about this for a second. Kissing is going to happen during sexual intercourse.. and just because they don’t do it in porn doesn’t mean you can’t express yourself that way. In fact, there are amazing sensations that can arise from a simple kiss on the lips or any part of your body! So indulge a little. That also means that it’s ok to smile, and laugh if you are having a good time. I find these intimate moments one to be more rewarding than the actual end goal itself!

We see time and time again in porn the elusive female orgasm. The guys make it look far too easy when it comes to making a girl cum. But did you know that 1 in 3 women have trouble achieving climax? You should never take it personally if you can’t make your lady cum the first few times, but use that as motivation to learn her body and get in tune with what will get her there! And remember in porn the one scene you are watching is comprised of multiple takes, so the time you see her cumming might be the only time after going at it a couple of times. Furthermore, a lot of women in porn don’t actually cum, but instead fake it with great vocalization! So just because they’re moaning doesn’t mean they’re getting what they want too!

While porn can reflect a majority of situations and encounters that we may want to experience, it is always helpful to take some of the scenarios you see in it with a grain of salt. More than likely your partner is not a porn star.. so don’t ‘hold the pussy/penis on a pedestal!’ And if you are a virgin and watching porn, remember to keep some of these helpful hints in mind for when you do decide to take it to the next level with your sexperience!

 

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Boston based writer with a passion for all things nerdy. Founder & Editor in Chief of NotACleverGirl.com and KeepItNerdy.com.